10 tips for delaying ejaculation

10 Tips To Delay Ejaculation

Sexual intercourse is often too short. The fault of a fast ejaculation… To make the pleasure last, certain tricks and techniques can help you to control this “reflex” movement. The councils of Dr Pierre Desvaux, andrologist sexologist.

1. Stop struggling like a devil

Preconceived ideas are hard to come by! “Men believe that only vigorous back and forth movements will bring them and their partner the much hoped for pleasure” reminds Dr Desvaux. This relentless back and forth would have the function of maintaining a sufficiently high level of excitement, to keep a nice erection. “It is in reality the best way to ‘come’ too fast” assures our expert.

It is necessary to return to the slowness and to bet on the changes of rhythm, “one advances on the inertia, in alternation with accelerations”. So that this rhythm is not simply mechanical, return to the sensations all gently… Then to delay the ejaculation is possible.

2. To pass from tension to pleasure

10 Tips To Delay Ejaculation

The ejaculation is most of the time lived as the relief of a tension due to the excitation: it is then a discharge… fast. “It is possible to learn to play with your excitement, to make it last, by seeking sensations of pleasure” suggests our expert. This learning is possible thanks to the masturbation.

His advice: “Rather than getting busy quickly, make yourself comfortable, to caress yourself, with the intention of stopping when the excitement rises too quickly”. Your new goal: to give yourself pleasure rather than to quickly relieve an arousal.

3. Try cognitive distraction

10 Tips To Delay Ejaculation

You’re probably familiar with the effect of fantasies to boost your arousal, even in situ. On the other hand, “when your excitement rises too quickly, focus your thoughts on something else. Anything, as long as it has no erotic connotation” suggests Dr Desvaux. It is a voluntary practice! If it is probably not the best for the partner, it has the merit of having an effect.

4. Relaxing the perineum

10 Tips To Delay Ejaculation

The muscular contraction is an archaic reflex which accelerates the coming of the orgasm.

Explanations: during the coitus, the man contracts his bulbo/icchio/cavernous muscles to increase the quality of the erection. “To slacken them, on the contrary, is going to allow to lower its level of excitation” assures the sexologist.

Again, you can start by learning on your own to feel the relaxation and contraction, as part of masturbation. The idea to last is to know how to play it. It is a learning process.

5. Choosing the right positions

10 Tips To Delay Ejaculation

Sexual intercourse is a real body choreography. “In the orchestration of positions, if you want to last, the best is to start with positions with less risk and finish with the one that leads you to orgasm,” suggests Dr. Desvaux. In fact, some positions will encourage too rapid an arousal, while others, on the contrary, will allow you to control it better.

To privilege:

  • The Andromache position. Your partner is on top of you. It is her who gives the rhythm and the depth. You cannot dance the jig with your pelvis, it is a good point not to come “too fast”. On the other hand, her pleasure can also stimulate your excitement too much. In this case, non-verbal dialogue is key. Her moans and body language give you clues. If you feel a rise too fast, you can immobilize her pelvis, gently;
  • The little spoon position. You behind her, lying on her side, your hands are free, your bodies interlocked. This position favors caresses and slowness.

6. Avoiding certain positions

10 Tips To Delay Ejaculation

Some positions will encourage a too fast excitement, others on the contrary will allow to better control it.

To avoid :

  • Doggy style position: it is too exciting for most men. The vision of their partner’s buttocks reactivates archaic images, and stimulates the desire to give great strokes of the pelvis: all elements that lead to a rapid ejaculation.

7. Practicing squeezing

10 Tips To Delay Ejaculation

For Masters and Johnson, it is the art and the way to learn to recognize the pre-orgasmic sensation and to delay this moment, in case of emergency. The partner must pinch the glans between the thumb and the index finger, at the place of the brake, precisely. “A gesture which stops the rise net” continues our expert. What requires of course to withdraw, and to be fast and precise. “It is obvious, moreover, that if you start again of more beautiful in a frenzy of back-and-forth, this technique will be insufficient” warns Dr Desvaux. You can use it during coitus, but it is not very pleasant for your partner.

8. Dare to use delaying condoms

10 Tips To Delay Ejaculation

There is a very wide range of condoms, including those with a delaying effect also called “long lasting”. What are they? The internal face of the condom is lined with a product which reduces the sensations at the level of the penis. The effect provided is of the order of a lesser perception of excitement. If the description is not immediately very exciting, this product has the merit of being effective. According to the sexologist: “When you use this product, the stimulation can come more from giving pleasure to your partner, while increasing your ability to control the duration of the erection”.

>> See the best delaying condoms on Condomz: with or without benzocaine, the delaying condoms allow to delay the ejaculation. One finds in particular the marks Durex, Manix, and Skyn.

The best delaying condoms :

1) DUREX – You & Me delaying condom

This box of 10 condoms Durex You & Me are in latex of natural rubber containing a ball of gel of benzocaïne. This product without any risk for health is a local anesthetic which makes it possible to decrease the exacerbated sensitivity at the level of the glans. The pearly and ribbed texture allows to intensify the orgasm… a delight. Length : 125 mm / Width : 650 mm

2) MANIX – Orgazmax Plus Condoms

This Manix condom offers an incredibly stimulating texture to promote orgasm. It is covered with 420 latex beads, which allows a rubbing against the internal walls of the partner … The “delay” effect is due to the benzocaine-based gel that penetrates the erogenous zone to delay ejaculation. Length : 185mm / Width : 53mm

9. Try retardant gels

10 Tips To Delay Ejaculation

They are effective, of course, but they require a lot of planning. Indeed, they provoke a light anaesthesia, so that you don’t feel too much excitement which can lead you too quickly to ejaculation. It is thus necessary to coat itself when the erection is there, to let act and to wait that the product penetrated well to initiate a coitus, in order not to anaesthetize the mucous membranes of your partner.

10. Opt for the Stop and Go

10 Tips To Delay Ejaculation

Described by Masters and Johnson, the American couple who revolutionized sexology in the 1960s, this technique is used mainly for the treatment of premature ejaculation. “However, it can be an interesting alternative to simply delaying ejaculation in a classical context” says Dr Desvaux.

It simply consists in interrupting the movement when the excitement seems to be out of control, and to “get out”, if necessary. Then to resume coitus, as soon as the excitement “falls back”. This is not always very pleasant for your partner, but it is effective. The idea is to save yourself.

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